Dating Deal Breakers

that mouth

One thing I can't stand is bad teeth. Bad  teeth won't even get you a deal to break. Another one is a man that has a poor/non existant relationship with his mom...that is a NO NO, a warning sign, a red flag!

Snooping...

don't go through my stuff.... Period. I've been together with my husband for 20 years now... (yikes... ) and he has NEVER gone through my stuff... nor I through his.

2 things

1. Earrings. I don't care if he's a pro football player and it's a single diamond stud. Not happening.
2. Long fingernails. Can you say EW?

Well said, mj

Lookin' forward to the day I can know that last sentence for myself!

Deal breakers

Someone who is so beautiful inside and out but is so afraid of what might be around the corner/afraid of the future. Someone afraid of taking risks. Someone who loves themselves far too much. Someone whose mother is too involved. I have clearly dated some winners. All that being said, had I not dated guys like them...I would have never known what to appreciate when the best one finally came my way.

Ooo, all good ones

Here are a few o' mine...

Talks more than he listens. A dude that loves the sound of his own voice has already found the love of his life--himself. I've gone out with a few guys where I've felt like a journalist on the job. I ask all the questions, he does all the talking. Mmm, no thanks.

He knows more about doilies than I do. I'm gonna have to concur with waitingforstars. I don't need the burliest man and I do like my gents on the arty side, but if I'm more of a man than he is, it's a problem. As a quote unquote strong woman, this is the bane of my existence.

He won't take responsibility for his own wrongdoin'. If I have the expectation of myself to admit when I've f-ed up, you're damn rights I'd demand it of my man.

He's blatantly unaware on a regular basis. For example, I once went out with a dude that liked to sing, but his singing voice was real bad. The bad voice wasn't so much the problem as was the fact that he thought he was a really great singer. He don't need to be perfect, but a little self-awareness goes a long way.

Biggest deal breaker of 'em all...

Back in the day, I dated a guy who, due to some personal issues, had--oh how shall I say--trouble putting the wind in his sails. Needless to say, the "courtesy lunch" (the awkward motion an on-the-skids couple goes through before never calling each other again) happened shortly after that.

What To Stand For.. errrr, What NOT To Stand For!

#1) A man who files his nails. (If I'm doing the filing, well, that's a different tale, and something I find oddly sexy... sorta like giving a man a homemade facial.) A man who clips his toenails, but leaves a JAGGED EDGE on the sides... I mean, what up with that?  If you're not gonna let me clip off that jagged edge, it's over.  And no, I WON'T watch you poke those hardened callouses with it.  Sheesh!  What kind of a girl do you think I am???!

#2) A man who munches loudly... I mean, LOUDLY, when you're sitting right next to him on the sofa watching Family Guy. And munches loudly with an open mouth. I'm SORRY, but I really appreciate the fact you're SO comfortable around me, but FOR THE LOVE OF SWEET MARY, CLOSE YOUR MOUTH AND IF YOU SHOVED TOO MUCH FOOD IN IT FOR IT TO CLOSE, THEN PUT LESS FOOD IN YOUR MOUTH. Geezzzz, Louise! I mean, yeah, I'm RIGHT beside you and can't hear Stewie speak!!!

#3) If you're living in a tight studio apartment (thank heavens those days are somewhat over for me), a man who pees with the bathroom door open. For reasons, please see #2 above.

 #4) A man who reads the paper, or anything for that matter, after you just whipped up a delicioso brunch fit for kings. When he reads without enjoying the meal with you, that's it. I mean, that's it.  I mean, COME ON.

#5)  Passive-aggressive behavior.  Avoiding dealing with an issue at hand, by simply ignoring it, not bringing it up on his own, ignoring you in the process.  Then, sorry, but I have to say, it's OVER.  O-V-E-R.  Over.  Here are your keys.  You want me to hold on to them???  What?  TAKE THEM.  PLEASE.

Lack of self control...

My biggest deal breaker? A man who doesn't know his own limits in regards to drinking. There is no bigger turn-off for me than a man who gets fall-down, puking drunk. Even if I don't break up with him right then and there, I know it's over. Once, I dated a man who drank too much wine, and the next morning as we were walking along the Embarcadero he had to run to the sea wall and throw up over the side. I could hear the bells tolling in my head... Excessive drinking brings out so many undesireable traits - clinginess, drama, jealousy, aggressiveness, weepiness, etc. Other deal breakers? Cheating, obviously, lying, games, ugly shoes, and bad hygiene. ;-)

The Big Stuff

like lying and cheating are major deal breakers for me.. little things include - like Ladyshark, a flagrant lack of respect for me,and mostly, I can't handle when a boy gets too clingy. The boyfriend is only clingy when he's been drinking..so i can handle that. i'm talking calls you every day five times a day, stays the night every night, cant live without you blah blah blah. I am a very independant woman who likes her alone time and girl and guyfriend time.

he was more girly than me.

on a scale from cher in clueless to sonora in wild hearts can't be broken, i'm right in the middle. dead center. not dudish, but outdoorsy. not overly girly, but i like heels. see me? average girl, possibly? he had curly hair that he hated. he chemically relaxed his hair so that he could style it like he desired. i dealt with that. when i went to his apartment once and caught him watching "a walk to remember," with mandy moore, and a hanson DVD on the floor, it was over.

Don't get me started...

Don't get me started... Single, I would dump a lover for silly, undramatic reasons, like in my sliced bread story (remember?). I wouldn't accept anything even slightly wrong (not a snore). Now, I'm so in love and commited that the only thing that could break my deal is if my man showed a flagrant lack of respect for who I am and a misunderstanding of my true nature: i.e. (egocentrism). I'm taking my own appartment to avoid that. Compromise, compromise...